How to own your sh*t in the midst of Mercury Retrograde
& not go back to your ex…
Part of me is still laughing at the idea that my very first blog entry is dedicated to the one and only: Mercury Retrograde.
I love astrology, don’t get me wrong, it’s just that I never thought I’d be writing my first journal around how to navigate Mercury Retrograde’s energy. Nevertheless, I choose to listen, to stay flexible & open, and lately so many of my students have been asking me: “WTF is happening with Mercury Retrograde?!”
So here I go, in an attempt to clarify and demystify what Mercury Retrograde is and what it isn’t, what lessons this planet is bringing into our lives & how to navigate this season with grace & gratitude. After all, Mercury (as all other celestial bodies) is divine in its timings & its purpose. This is a huge invitation for us to come back into trust: to fully trust the cosmic movements & above all, to trust our ability to take responsibility for our lives rather than falling into victim mode.
Here’s what Mercury Retrograde is & is not…
Mercury Retrograde is NOT a planet going backwards, but it IS a slowing down in its regular speed creating an optical illusion to the human’s eye appearing it to go backwards (but in reality it’s still moving forwards).
Mercury Retrograde is NOT the Universe telling you to go back with your ex (although they seem to appear from out of nowhere around this time), but it IS giving you an opportunity to see things clearly. It will shine its light on things that have been left unfinished, unspoken & unhealed.
In this sense, as Mercury’s energy slows down, this isn’t really a moment for us to take on big & bold decisions (signing contracts, project launches, booking flights, house purchases, etc.), but it is more of an energy that calls for revision, redefinition & redirection. And you might wonder… “but what do I need to revise?” Don’t you worry about that! This is where the magic of Mr. Mercury R. comes at play…. it will show you exactly what are the areas of your life still need to be polished.
For example, a situation in your work that keeps coming up, an unwanted negative thought pattern that won’t stop bugging you, a past relationship that keeps appearing around this time, a state of affairs that continue showing up in your dreams, or maybe something that you began in the past and is now coming back for completion.
As you can see, the possibilities are infinite, and this is also what Mercury R. is about. When things come back from our past, there is a lesson about accepting that the choices we make aren’t as ultimate as we think they are. Having a chance to revisit certain areas of our lives gives us a clear vision around them, and an opportunity to perhaps choose a different outcome this time. When we realize this, we can see that Mercury Retrograde isn’t there to beat us up on our past mistakes, but it is more like a very patient zen master pointing into the areas of our life that need some amending.
My intention here is to invite you to start seeing Mercury Retrograde as something that truly has your best interest at heart, and above all, for you to remember that you are the creator of your own reality. This is a call for us stop blaming our life drama on Mercury R. & take responsibility for our own destinies. And yes, things might get funky and uncomfortable when unfinished business knocks right on your door, but trust that this is an excellent opportunity for you to show up for yourself & own your sh*t!
So next time your ex pops up in the most random way during Mercury R., instead of thinking “holy F, the Universe wants for me to go back with him!” maybe meditate on what are the feelings that come up when you see him, maybe there’s still some resentment that needs to be released, or perhaps some words yet to be spoken…
All in all, Mercury Retrograde is an excellent opportunity to:
Revise
Revisit
Redifine
Readjust
Redirect
Rewrite
At a personal level, I had two big aha moments this Mercury R. First, I ran into my ex (of course) & that exact night had a dream showing me how I’d felt betrayed when the relationship ended. The aha comes in realizing that I still haven’t fully forgiven myself about how things ended, and that letting go of this feeling of betrayal would be a wise thing to do. Second, I had three consecutive dreams about old friendships that were calling for healing! And here I’d say there are two ahas - the first comes in knowing who I should revisit and have a heart-to-heart conversation with & the second comes in accepting that making mistakes is part of being human.
In conclusion, try to see Mercury Retrograde as a loving teacher :) Forgive yourself & others for what needs to be forgiven. Let go of the feelings & emotions that aren’t longer serving you. Reshape & redirect your destiny in a way that is true to your heart’s deepest desires. Own responsibility for what you are creating here on Earth & never forget you are also a child of the stars!
For those of you who don’t know, we’ve been in Mercury Retrograde from around the 9th of September & we’ll be out on the 1st of October 2022. I want to invite you to reflect upon the following questions to integrate this crazy cosmic movement & to shine light on the lessons that it brought into your life. Your journaling prompts for Mr. Mercury R.:
What are the relationships, experiences, thoughts, dreams, emotions, patterns that came back into your life loud and clear? (be honest with yourself)
Why do you sense they are coming back? Is there a need for healing/integration/forgiving? Is there a need to communicate something? (make sure to answer this separately for every theme you listed on the question above & to trust your intuition)
What is one action that I can bring into each one of these situations for healing & completion of the process?
P.S.
If you need further support into reclaiming & owning your power of creation I highly recommend you reading any of the Dr. Joe Dispenza’s books or watching his series on Gaia “Rewired”. Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain is also a great option!
Finally, here are your 2023 Mercury Retrograde dates:
December 29 2022 - January 18, 2023 in Capricorn
April 21 - May 14 in Taurus
August 23 - September 15 in Virgo
December 13 - January 1st 2024 in Sagittarius
Con amor,
Sofia
